These are my notes from the parenting workshop last weekend, mostly unedited. Listen to the message here.
Walter & Kim Evans
Walter
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Books/DVD:
- The Wonder Years
- The Age of Opportunity
- Parenting With Kingdom Purpose
- Effective Parenting in a Defective World
We are at world with the world for our children. Things have changed since we were kids and we don’t even know how much.
Rev. 12:7-9, 16-17
Don’t fight with our kids, fight for them.
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The Disengaged Parent
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1 Sam 2:12, 22-25
Eli seems like the worn and weary parent.
(v. 25)
Walter
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“We want our kids to be at their worst while at home.”
Make the home the hub for the kids activity.
Kim
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If we aren’t wrestling with Satan, he’s winning.
“Mom (Gemple) would pray to catch us sinning.”
Don’t make them into what we want them to be, help them to be what God has called them to be.
If they love God just like me, will that be OK? Or are we hoping they’d be like we used to be?
Walter
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1 Sam 2:29
This is how Eli got where he was. Honoring kids before God.
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Ambitious but Absent Parent
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2 Sam 13:23-25
Walter
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I wonder if Absalom longed to talk to Dad about what he was planning?
(Minivan radio trick)
Kim
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More trouble between 3-6.
Keep a pulse on what’s going on. It’s harder as time goes on.
We have got to be there, engaged.
Be the ones that your kid’s friends can talk to.
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Trying but tested
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Luke 2:41-45
Walter
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The didn’t know where he was for a whole day!
We’re in the game, but we’re missing some of the signs.
This where we help each other out. “By the way, brother, I noticed this.”
It does take a village (not to quote a pres candidate 😀 ).
(how towns in the west started)
Kim
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I’m convinced that parents are some of the most insecure Christians. More so as they get older.
Your doing your best and someone points something out and it’s hard not to react.
Pray that God would show you what you need.
Check up on your kids “It’s not you I don’t trust, it’s Satan.
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6 battle grounds
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- Worldliness
- academic performance
- athletic success
- possessions, appearance & style
- teach them how to give and serve. Hang out with those who don’t have as much.
- what are you tempted with & what your kids are
- Unspiritual
- apologize when we need to.
- were sinful and they will be too for their whole life
- they see how you play the game
- marriage problems
- fighting, hateful or the cold war
- kids are smarter than you think
- don’t bury things for the sake of peace
- test – do you want them to have a marriage like yours
- weak family life
- meals together
- devotionals
- time together, consistency
- pray with them every night, it sticks with them
- shaping behavior instead of molding hearts
- task master, doing it right
- if it’s all about doing it right for mom or dad we’ve missed something
- dealing with unresolved issues
- eph 4:26, 29
- kids that have heard nothing but neg stuff about church their whole life. Do it in private. I does so much damage. Build others up. They end up so critical. Repeat it and exaggerate it, that’s how they hear it.


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